Anyone else feel stifled by the gay marriage debate? Really brings back unpleasant memories of the gays in the military debate. Both debates are brilliant strategy moves by the right: by defining the issue in stark black and white terms it really forces the left into a single issue position. You really can't go full force for gays in the military AND organize against military intervention any more than you can go full force in favor of gay marriage AND question the institution of marriage in our society.

Fortunately there are smart organizers around - such as the ones that put together a statement called Beyond Marriage. Have a look at: beyondmarriae.org.